Oh My Blog is a monthly interview series, where fellow bloggers come together to answer a series of questions on a specific theme. This is a chance to get acquainted with a whole range of bloggers, some of whom you may not have heard of before, and learn a little more about them!
This month, the theme is Mums (because it’s Mother’s Day soon!) and we’re hosting Lisa from Pass the Prosecco.
How long have you been a mum? Introduce us to your children
I became a mummy in November 2014 to a beautiful 9lb chunk of hunk named William.
What’s been the best thing about it so far?
Having a best friend with me all the time who I love more than anything and vice versa. I always have someone to talk to.
Best baby brain story. More dozy the better!
Everything used to go in the sink; I sent TV remotes and various other electronic devices to a watery grave many a time. My husband used to say that anything we couldn’t find would always be in the kitchen sink!
You’ve won the lottery (yay!) What is the first thing that you buy for yourself? (Not for the kiddies!)
A holiday to somewhere hot where I can lay on a beach all day and drink copious amounts of wine and cocktails delivered to me by an Adonis of a man wearing not a lot. A hot holiday all alone… before missing the husband and son after 48 hours and flying home.
What’s the first thing you do once the kids have gone to bed?
I make a proper frothy coffee, sit down and catch up on social media. Nine times out of ten I fall asleep or go to bed.
What are your plans for Mother’s Day this year?
I would love to go to the zoo; it’s my favourite place for a day out and it’s perfect for the small one too. Beans on toast and a beer for dinner – I’m easily pleased.
What are you most looking forward to in the years to come as a mum?
I would like my son to be happy and healthy and to live his life however he wants. I can’t wait to find out what path his future takes and what life he will make for himself. It’s so exciting watching a small person learn new things and grow and see his personality coming out.
What’s the best Mother’s Day present you’ve ever received?
My first card ever on my first Mother’s Day. After a long struggle to fall pregnant it was so magical to be a mummy and celebrate Mother’s Day.
Did you do anything special or specific to announce that you were going to become a mum?
I lied! I went in for a laparoscopy in March 2014 and all our family and friends knew; we had fertility issues. I was gowned up and just about to be wheeled into theatre and the nurse said she would just do a quick pregnancy test. When that and five more tests showed I was pregnant it was a huge shock! I had a scan and was confirmed to be 7 weeks pregnant. We were in shock and over the moon but had a problem – I didn’t want to announce until we had passed 12 weeks and had our first proper scan however I was supposed to have an operation and how would we get out of it?! We told everyone my operation had been cancelled and then told close family and friends by saying they had found a bean in my tummy and showed them a scan photo. It was amazing. After lying for six weeks more we finally announced to all once we had our 12 week scan.
What’s the biggest way you’ve changed since becoming a mum? Aside from now having a small human to take care of, obviously.
I have chilled out a lot. Don’t get me wrong I get so nervous at times and ongoing depression and anxiety makes things hard but I just try to take a chilled approach to parenting and trust my instinct. I was a neurotic mess before!
What’s the one thing you wish someone had told you about becoming a mum?
To not let motherhood define you. What I mean is that yes, your first priority is your child and being a mum is all you think about but be kind to yourself and don’t lose who you are. Try and take time out to go out with the girls or go to the gym, or anything you enjoy – it doesn’t make you a bad parent, if anything a little you time and ‘battery recharge’ makes you a better parent I think.
Be honest here… have you passed any of your bad habits on to your kids yet? We promise, we won’t judge.
I do love a nap and a snuggle under the blanket – I consider it bad as most of the time my housework needs doing, my kitchen is a mess and there is probably a smelly nappy lurking in the front room but we still have a nap and snuggles. He is lazy like his mumma. I bite my fingernails and I’m hoping he doesn’t copy that.
What is your absolute must-have item now that you’re a parent? One thing you can’t leave the house without or need for your kid’s bedtime. What’s integral to your daily life now?
Baby wipes. Hands down. I can’t live without them – I clean with them, wipe bums with them, they are so handy. I feel I could write a book about uses for a wet wipe.
What’s the weirdest mum conversation you’ve found yourself having? Be it with your child, your partner or even a fellow mum? We all know we end up talking about weird stuff.
My and my husband talk about our child’s poo all the time. It’s become a main focus of our day. We have to know our son’s bowel movements and we go into great detail about frequency, smell, colour and size. What has our life become!
Finally, what’s the biggest lesson your time as a mum has taught you?
That maternal instinct is the most amazing thing ever. As a mum you are responsible for a small human and your instinct tells you when they are happy, sad, poorly, or anything. Everyone around you could be telling you the opposite but no one will ever know your child like you. I love the quote that says about how your child is the only one who knows what your heart sounds like from the inside. It’s true – the bond between mother and child is incredible, there is nothing like it.