Create Your Own Kindness is a brand new activity book by Becky Goddard-Hill for children age 6-12. It contains 50 kindness activities teaching children how to be kind to themselves, other people and to the world.

In this activity from the book Becky shares with us how to help kids be kinder to their grandparents and deepen their connection with them

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Getting to know their Grandparents

Whether they see them every day or just once or twice a year you can be pretty certain your kid’s grandparents think about them a lot.

Grandparents may show kids kindness in lots of different ways sweets, letters, cookies, gifts, hugs, stories and so much more.

Let us have a think about how kids can show some kindness back. Yes, drawing and baking are lovely ways to show grandparents they are cared for … but how about asking them to share their stories…everyone loves that don’t they?


The Grandparent Interview

Really getting to know their grandparents and showing an interest in them is a lovely act of kindness that makes the grandparent feel special and enables a deeper bond.

Here are 30 questions for kids to ask their grandparents to find out all about them:


  • What was your name when you were young?
  • What was your nickname and why?
  • Where were you born?
  • what your favourite childhood memory
  • What was the name of your school?
  • Who did you play with?
  • Did you have any pets?
  • Were you scared of anything?
  • What was your favourite board game?
  • What was your favourite playground game?
  • Did you have any brothers and sisters and what are their names?
  • What did your parents do for a job?
  • What was the best subject at school?
  • What was your worst subject at school?
  • What were your parents like?
  • What music did you listen to when you were young?
  • Where did you go on a holiday when you were young?
  • What age did you leave school?
  • Can you remember your first job?
  • Did you go to university?
  • Can you remember your first date?
  • When did you learn to drive?
  • When did you meet each other?
  • How many children did you have?
  • What’s your proudest memory?
  • What’s your happiest memory?
  • Where are all the places you have lived?
  • What is the most interesting place you have ever been too?
  • What do you like most about being my grandparent?

Bonus question: What life lesson do you want me to learn the most?

Obviously, your kids don’t have to ask their grandparents all the Q’s at once (it might take hours!)  they can do it bit by bit. It’s the perfect lockdown activity to keep kids talking to their grandparents (on Zoom perhaps?)  and building on their relationship. Recording their answers will help kids build up a lovely story of their life that one day they might pass on to your children.

If your child struggles with anxiety over the phone, make it a game and dress up as a news reporter and use a video call instead so they can work from the visual cues of the family members on the other end of the line. They could create a little press pass and add it to a lanyard. They could decide on a name for a fictional chat show that they’re a host of! They could even line up their soft toys as the “studio audience”.

Our strange lockdown year has likely meant that children will have become estranged to some family members and as parents it’s important to remember that so many of us are weathering that same storm. For children and young people (and even some adults) being out of sight is out of mind but it can be hard to overcome that distance and get back to something closer to what we would recognise as *normal*.

Create Your Own Kindness is available now from Amazon and all good bookshops

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